Happy birthday to me. I’m officially 28 years old. Every year on my birthday, I spend a lot of time contemplating both the past and coming year. And every year I have these impossible goals that I want to accomplish with no idea how to do them. So this year, since I have 24 months left I thought I’d start out on a brand new 30 before 30 list of things I’ve wanted to do but haven’t gotten to yet and blog about it to keep me honest.
I both hate and love my birthday. I feel like birthdays are overplayed but at the same time, I see them as new beginnings—more so than even New Years. Turning a new age means new opportunities. The world, no matter how complicated, suddenly has a clean slate even if for only a brief time.
Unlike most people, I prefer to spend my birthday alone with my thoughts and a piece of paper so I can spend my time contemplating my next moves, plans and goals. But this year, since 30 is slowly but surely creeping up, I’m spending (most of) my day working out the goals for my 30 before 30 challenge.
What are 30 before 30 goals?
As the name would suggest, a 30 before 30 goals is a list of 30 things you want to do before you turn 30. It’s simply a way to set out a specific amount of goals with timelines for maximum achievement.
If you’re a hugely goal-oriented person, like I am, then a goals list is a great idea. Variations of this are 20 before 20 goals, 40 before 40 goals, or really any number by any age!
The first of my 30 before 30 goals
I’m not going to share all of my 30 before 30 goals in this post because it’s only two hours into my birthday and I honestly haven’t decided on the whole list yet. Beyond that, I have goals on my list that I haven’t even begun to contemplate.
With that in mind, here are my first three 30 by 30 goals:
#1 Fall in love with me
Some days I wake up in the morning and think I am an amazing human being, and other days I barely want to look at myself. While I’d really like to tell you that I love me, some days I simply don’t.
Regardless of what else ends up on my list, this will always be the hardest. And it’ll likely be one that I can’t ever truly cross off my list.
Loving yourself is an ongoing process, and there will always be bad days. But it’s one of my most important goals because to truly be successful I need to really like myself, or it’ll be hard to accomplish anything.
My plan to fall in love myself? Honestly, I have no idea. But I open to ideas!
#2 Loose weight
This goal seems to be a direct contradiction of my earlier goal, but it’s on my list in a different capacity that most would think.
I’m a heavier-set woman, though most people bach when they realize what I weigh because I certainly don’t look it. And, to be honest, most days I don’t have a problem with being a plus-size woman. Even the days that I do have an issue with it, one of my ultimate goals is to love myself and my body, regardless of what I look like.
But being heavier comes with certain health issues that as I age I have come to truly experience and dislike. Namely, joint pain. Carrying weight on my upper body is stressful on both my knees and ankles. And though I’m not seriously into exercise, it makes experiences like my daily walks less enjoyable.
Ultimately, my goal to lose weight isn’t so much related to changing the way I look but focusing on the way I feel.
My plan to lose weight? I want to focus on both integrating more exercise into my daily routine—for the past year, my goal’s been to walk 10,000 steps a day and most days I do more than this but I’d like to take some classes—and eating better. A better diet for me will also mean catering to both polycystic ovarian syndrome and psoriasis, as I’m unfortunately afflicted with both.
# 3 Finish that damn screenplay
I’m a writer through-and-through, but starting something and finishing it are two entirely different things. So finishing a screenplay definitely makes it onto my list.
I have a ton of ideas to write about and I start about 90 percent of them, but I’ve never finished one. Okay, technically I finished one short screenplay but it was less than five pages long so I’m not confident it counts.
In any case, I want to take one of those screenplays I’ve started and finish it. To me, that means not only finishing the writing but have it edited professionally and submitting it to a screenplay contest. And, to clarify, I’m not concerned with winning anything, I just want to hit that “submit” button.
My plan for finishing a screenplay? The main reason that I haven’t finished a screenplay is that I don’t prioritize creative writing. I spend my entire day writing things, but when I work on a project like a screenplay, it feels like frivolous work. So my biggest target is to change my mindset on my creative works and prioritize writing creatively.
Want to start your own 30 before 30 goals list?
Starting your own 30 before 30 goals list is a great way to set out some realistic but fun goals that will truly contribute to your overall life enjoyment and give them timelines. Both of those things are essential to goal planning.
If you want to start your own one, it’s super simple. Here’s my handy little guide:
Step one: Figure out what you want out of life. These don’t have to be career orientated goals, in fact, I’d recommend that they lend to all areas of your life—career, relationships, personal growth.
Step two: Take a piece of paper (or five) and set the clock. Give yourself 30 minutes (or however long you want) to write down any goal that comes to your mind—whether they’re realistic or not. Write down everything.
Step three: Narrow your goals down to 30 goals that you can reasonably achieve by 30. Having reasonably achievable goals doesn’t mean you can’t stretch yourself, it just means don’t put “become a millionaire” on your list if you only have three months to go and $1,000 in your bank account.
Step four: Make an achievement plan for each of your goals. You don’t have to do this all right away, work through one goal at a time. If you’re not sure how to make a plan for your goal, check back fo my next post!
What’s on your 30 before 30 list? Share your awesome goals in the comments below!