I constantly catch myself comparing my life to others — why are they so successful and I’m stuck here? What am I doing wrong? Why aren’t I doing better? It’s like a constant stream of comparisons that the logical version of me knows are ridiculous.
Even so, I get stuck comparing myself to people that I perceive as being where I want to be. And get frustrated that I’m not there yet. If you’re anything like me, there are a few things you need to keep in mind to keep you going:
Apples to oranges
There’s that beautiful old adage that’s perfect for those of us that fall into the comparison trap, you can’t compare apples to oranges. The wild successes of other people that you see online often aren’t all that they appear cracked up to be, and even if they are you have no idea where they were before or how they got there.
Everyone lives their own story and all of our situations vary. Even those that are closest too you have variations that you can’t account for. There’s no sense in comparing yourself to someone who’s already there — you’re not there yet and you’re not going to get there by beating yourself down.
There’s nothing wrong with where you are
Presumably, you work hard. You’re ambitious and you have dreams and goals. But accomplishing those dreams and goals is going to happen in your own time, not someone else’s.
There’s nothing wrong with where you are today. When it really comes down to it, you can’t control how fast you’re going to get to your end goal, all you can really control is how much effort you put into getting there.
Instead of beating yourself down about not being there, wherever there is, focus on what you’ve managed to accomplish this far. Chances are you’re in a very different place than you were a year ago — and if you aren’t, then there’s no time like the present!
You decide where you go tomorrow
Where you are today doesn’t have to be where you are tomorrow. One of my biggest goals is to run a successful blog because I love writing and sharing the things I learn with others. The Single Girl’s Guide To Real Adulting isn’t yet a successful blog, but every post I publish gets me one step closer to my goal.
Wallowing in self-pity and being disappointed in where you are won’t help you reach your goal or rise to your potential. But taking the next step will help you get there. So, if you find yourself disappointed thinking you’re never going to make it, take some time right now and work on that next step!
What is your next step? Drop it in the comments below!