The older I get the more I realize adulting is not all that it’s cracked up to be. Sure I get to stay up as late as I want, eat whatever I want whenever I want and I don’t have to go to school but there are a lot of trade offs you make. Say for examples working, 12-year-old me didn’t imagine putting in 40 hours a week in a dingy cubicle to make a fairly mediocre paycheck, nor did she understand the concepts of paying bills or filing taxes. And don’t even get me started with dating, 12-year-old me was convinced I’d have a hot boyfriend like Legolas from Lord of the Rings (played by the formidable Orlando Bloom), and they’d have 2.5 kids and a white picket fence.
Fast forward 15 years, and it turns out 12-year-old me was wrong, go figure. She’s single, she has to pay bills and work wasn’t as fun as she’d originally pictured. In fact, it was downright rotten. So 26-year-old me got an idea. She was going to peace the job and live the life that 12-year-old me dreamed up (minus Orlando Bloom), or at least as close as I can manage.
But it turns out, I still have a lot to learn. So welcome to The Single Girl’s Guide to Real Adulting, where I share with you all how to pull your socks up and be a real adult while still enjoying life. It’s gonna be a wild ride, so I sure hope you grabbed your fanny pack (I kid, I kid… sort of).
My name is Tae
I’ve officially been an adult for almost 10 years, though if you ask some people they’d tell you it’s been much longer. I work from my lovely 14th floor apartment in downtown Calgary as a professional writer, scripting corporate tales for clients around the world. I run their blogs, their websites, their social media and their podcasts. It has its ups and downs, but when you get to the core being your own boss really rocks, 12-year-old me would be real proud.
It hasn’t always been this way though. Less than a year ago I was slinging marketing plans in my 6-by-6 cubicle with a buzzing fluorescent light blinding my every move at the local office of an international firm, doing my best to sell our services and tow the company line. The truth was I was miserable, perpetually distracted and couldn’t fathom the idea that this was all life had to offer me. Where had that young girl who wanted to write fantastical tales and work on epic films go? The one that had spent summer days at the family cabin reading a book then casting the future feature film with all my favourites. Somewhere along the way between my undergrad, the corporate grind and the continual drive of work hard, play later I had lost myself.
So one day I walked into my boss’ office and told her I was done. I had an entire life to live and this was no longer apart of it. I finished out the last few days at the office pondering what my life would be like now that I didn’t have anyone but myself to answer to. It could be great, I could become the person I’d always wanted to be… or it could be terrible, and I could end up penniless in the gutter with only Benny the Pug to keep me warm. Either way, I knew I had to try.
Life is a series of decisions you make
That is probably the most important lesson I’ve learned in life. There is a good, bad and neutral outcome of each decision so you make it and hope that everything falls into place. Similarly, being an adult doesn’t really mean being older and knowing everything, it really means being older and realizing you still have a lot to learn.
But my core belief is that regardless of what life throws at us, the most important thing is that we are happy. We need to be proud of the decisions we make, even if they turn out poorly. We need to learn from our own lives and those around us. And we need to make the effort to be present.
The Single Girl's Guide to Real Adulting
Is meant to be a resource, though in reality I admit right now it’s mostly a blog. I use it to log my thoughts about adulting, the lessons I learn about advancing your career, managing your household and relationships, and how-to guides that I’ve penned myself or garnered from people I’ve met.
But real adulting isn’t mean to be about me. It is my hope that whether you’re an adulting pro or you brand new to the game that there is something on here that will help you out along the way. Maybe you’ve never had to take care of your own taxes because you’ve always used your dad’s accountant (been there), you need tips on how to maintain your car or you want to wow recruiters with your resume so you can land that dream job. Whatever your journey throws at you, I hope that one day you can use this place to find what you’re looking for.
I’m here to empower women, set them on the path to success and have a lot of fun on the way, and I sincerely hope you will join me. Today is just the first day of the rest of your adulting life.
Happy adulting everyone, I’ll see you around.
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